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I found in my F-list an entry that listed a bunch of people that the writer wanted to drop her off from their friends list. Öööö... Okay? As I was one of them, I gladly dropped her. It seems like she hadn’t written anything interesting not-friends-locked on a while, anyway. But what really is the point? Don’t people understand that friending is just a way to read peoples’ public entries more conveniently? And since you can hide your “fried of”-list, it really doesn’t matter. Your friends-locked entries will be seen only the people that *you* determine as friends. You could even liberally friend back all the people that have friended you, and then make a filter that would allow only your “real” friends to see your posts, anyway.

On the other hand, it might be nice to inform all the hang around-people, that hey, I’m going to friends-lock my journal from now, you might as well drop me. But as that was now not the case, I don’t get it. What was she trying to say? “I don’t want you to read my public posts? I feel like you make me look bad?” What?

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I don't get that either. Maybe some people think that being on the friends list is being actual friends, and if someone keeps your name added it means that they'll be that annoying friend who keeps on hanging around even when you don't want him/her to. I do have real life friends there as well as journals I enjoy reading in general. I have seen many people defriending first a bunch, and then saying "please remove me from your lists". Or what? I can still save the link somewhere and read the journal because all I would see anyway is public entries.

Boggles the mind.

Meybe there are people who keep this huge bookmark folder of all the lj's they read, and are like "Ha! I read them and they don't know it since they can't see mee!" Um, public posting, anyone?

Anyway, when LJ announced that the striked/dead lj's wouldn't stay hanging around your friendslist anymore, I objected. To my comment I got a comemnt that said that "I wan't the dead journals to disappear because I'm too lazy to remove them by hand and the names staying shows all how lazy-ass I am.". Sure. Right..

"I wan't the dead journals to disappear because I'm too lazy to remove them by hand and the names staying shows all how lazy-ass I am."

Uh. Eh? How does this person manage to update his/her journal :D I usually removed dead LJs only during some bigger spring cleaning because frankly, I did not care that much that they were around. After all, they did not show up on my friends list anymore, so what did I care if they were shown on my profile? Weirdness.

I hate those dramatic defriending announcements. I mean, I guess it might be nice to know if someone's doing a defriending round, but it's not going to be the end of the world if they do defriend. As you said, flists and filters and friendslocks are designed just to make reading easier, and it's not like anyone's under any obligation to friend back to begin with. So.. yeah.

Even as I know that the friends-list doesn't mean actual friends (though it seems like some thing that it is a some kind of statement of friendship), it sure does make one feel weird when de-friending. I like to do it private, but maybe it's some people's way of telling "I'm not ashamed of de-friending!" or something. Still, the ways of friending stay mysterious..

Same here! I feel a little bit like, what did I do? Wasn't I interesting enough? I don't really defriend all that often myself. I even have people on my flist who talk about nothing but bandslash, which I'm not interested in at all, but I keep them on because I'm sentimental about when we were both into pop. Who knows. Friending is a mysterious thing indeed. There's a whole complicated set of etiquette that I have no idea about.